Today, while Nassar went through another round of sentencing, a father of three abused daughters (two of which were standing next to him in court with tears in their eyes) Randall Margraves begged for just 5 minutes of time with the offender in a room. He pled with the judge, and after being obviously refused, Margraves decided to take vengeance into his own hands and bolted towards the disgraced abuser. He was forcefully taken down by court police and cuffed.
I don’t blame him for having a visceral reaction to Nassar. I can’t imagine the pain Margraves is having, knowing that Nassar abused his daughters. The people who were supposed to protect me either shamed or discarded me after my assault, so I don’t have a direct frame of reference, but if someone had hurt my child in this way, I likely would have the same desire to set that person straight. Perhaps with my fists.
But when I watched this tape for the second time, my focus changed. I could hear his daughters, who had been standing next to him during his impact statement. They were distressed, and crying in shock as the person they loved was suddenly overcome with anger and subsequently arrested for his courtroom outburst. Their sounds were those of scared women, scared of losing their person. The one who is standing there speaking up against the person who abused them.
The internet is calling him a hero. Likely because Margraves did what we all wanted to do. Serve a quick punch to the face of justice. The build-up of pain was a timebomb waiting to happen in the Nassar case. With so much restraint and elegance among the women, there had to be a breaking point.
And I hear you. I really do.
AND. The cycle of violence MUST be broken. Power was abused over these girls (now women) as they were sexually molested over and over by Nassar. POWER is what we are talking about here. Nassar had it and used it in unfathomable ways. Margraves also was attempting to use his power to assault.
I still stand with the women. The women in the Nassar case were exceedingly eloquent and powerful in their strength and testimony. But in this case, the women that Margraves supports were in terror of their father’s behavior, as evidenced by the sounds of anguish as he was taken to the ground.